By
Julius T Pacana
Very recently, I seriously pondered about my honeymoon. I, being just recently got married, nine days ago, to be exact; my wife and I am actually in this so called "honeymoon" stage. In the nine days that we are super sweet to each other, admittedly, there occurred instances when our physical intimacy didn't bring with it the ecstatic moment that we both longed to achieve, yet we are so happy just being intimately together. Along with these experiences are differences in many things like which of our things must be put where inside our small room, and what to do in specific conditions and situations. These differences would have been enough to get on our nerves and make our "honeymoon" sweetness wane and eventually fade but it didn't. On the contrary, we just laugh at each other's differences and kiss and hug each other.
As I continue to think deeply about this thing called honeymoon, I am saddened by the fact that many people today have actually accepted the word "honeymoon" as that stage in a married relationship when a couple is extraordinarily sweet and very extremely intimate physically right after marriage. Usually it is the first one month of marriage. And after that so called "honeymoon" stage, that extraordinary sweetness of the couple begins to dissipate.
I have asked myself quite seriously, "Can a honeymoon be an everyday thing?" Looking back at my own parents married life which really lasted for long until my mother's demise at the age of seventy eight. I could honestly say that honeymoon can really be an everyday scene in a couple's life. One thing that I have strongly observed as the one factor that made their relationship so strong is their individual discipline to live in loving commitment to each other. Their everyday action of showing their love to each other was in fact living in discipline to do what is right. Conclusively, when we base our sweetness towards our spouse on what we "feel" which is really a vacillating occurrence in human emotion, then honeymoon will just be a mere stage in marital relationship. But when our being sweet towards our spouse is done as a discipline rather than just a mere feeling, honeymoon can definitely be an everyday occurrence. When we make it a discipline to be sweet to our spouse in words and actions on a daily basis, our relationship with our spouse will be an exchange of sweetness that will last for a lifetime. As an analogy, take a pianist for example. Whether he likes to practice or not, he must practice every day because it is the right thing to do that would make him adept and perfect in playing the piano. This is a fact in a marital relationship which definitely would make us adept and perfect in being sweet and loving to our spouse.
When the sweetness of each spouse is expressed as a discipline there is no reason for any couple not to stay sweet and fresh in their intimacy forever. And for this unequivocal conclusion one must seriously and religiously think when he thinks of getting married.
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Very recently, I seriously pondered about my honeymoon. I, being just recently got married, nine days ago, to be exact; my wife and I am actually in this so called "honeymoon" stage. In the nine days that we are super sweet to each other, admittedly, there occurred instances when our physical intimacy didn't bring with it the ecstatic moment that we both longed to achieve, yet we are so happy just being intimately together. Along with these experiences are differences in many things like which of our things must be put where inside our small room, and what to do in specific conditions and situations. These differences would have been enough to get on our nerves and make our "honeymoon" sweetness wane and eventually fade but it didn't. On the contrary, we just laugh at each other's differences and kiss and hug each other.
As I continue to think deeply about this thing called honeymoon, I am saddened by the fact that many people today have actually accepted the word "honeymoon" as that stage in a married relationship when a couple is extraordinarily sweet and very extremely intimate physically right after marriage. Usually it is the first one month of marriage. And after that so called "honeymoon" stage, that extraordinary sweetness of the couple begins to dissipate.
I have asked myself quite seriously, "Can a honeymoon be an everyday thing?" Looking back at my own parents married life which really lasted for long until my mother's demise at the age of seventy eight. I could honestly say that honeymoon can really be an everyday scene in a couple's life. One thing that I have strongly observed as the one factor that made their relationship so strong is their individual discipline to live in loving commitment to each other. Their everyday action of showing their love to each other was in fact living in discipline to do what is right. Conclusively, when we base our sweetness towards our spouse on what we "feel" which is really a vacillating occurrence in human emotion, then honeymoon will just be a mere stage in marital relationship. But when our being sweet towards our spouse is done as a discipline rather than just a mere feeling, honeymoon can definitely be an everyday occurrence. When we make it a discipline to be sweet to our spouse in words and actions on a daily basis, our relationship with our spouse will be an exchange of sweetness that will last for a lifetime. As an analogy, take a pianist for example. Whether he likes to practice or not, he must practice every day because it is the right thing to do that would make him adept and perfect in playing the piano. This is a fact in a marital relationship which definitely would make us adept and perfect in being sweet and loving to our spouse.
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When the sweetness of each spouse is expressed as a discipline there is no reason for any couple not to stay sweet and fresh in their intimacy forever. And for this unequivocal conclusion one must seriously and religiously think when he thinks of getting married.
resource: obttaggaazgs
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